I was planning a big "Filanthropy Friday" review for this post, but Cub is a little sick so I wasn't able to work on the post. I'll try to get it done in the next couple of days.
I was trying to think of one ultra-mega charity for my last Filanthorpy Friday of the year (a tradition I will continue), but the only one that kept coming to mind (probably because of all the commercials) is St. Jude Children's Research Hospital.
Cub is sick today, but I'm extremely thankful that it's just a little virus. I wish all children with cancer could just wake up tomorrow feeling better (like Cub probably will). One day it might be possible. I donated $25 to St. Jude to help in this possibility.
Cub doesn't have school this week so I didn't go into work today.
All the misfits in this household are still exhausted. The past three weeks have just been crazy, especially for Buttin. In the last couple of days he has fallen asleep sitting up while we were reading books to Cub and laying down on the bathroom floor while I was giving Cub a bath.
It's 7:15 and we're already in bed.
It was finally nice enough out today for Cub to go outside and he really enjoyed it.
My year of Filanthropy Friday increased (exponentially) my thankfulness for my life with Buttin - our family and friends and our healthy child.
Buttin and I had an extremely busy year and a really crazy December, but it was very important to Buttin that we "adopt" a family for the holidays.
We found a family of three (mom and two daughters) through Foundation Communities and delivered gifts to them on Tuesday.
When I first spoke with the mother a couple weeks ago she started crying on the phone because she didn't know if her family would receive assistance for the holidays. Her gift requests were humbling - food and cleaning supplies for her, socks, underwear and cowboy boots for her 6-year-old daughter and gift cards for her teenage daughter. We found them all some pretty fun presents.
On Tuesday we met the mom and we showed her the gifts we purchased for her daughters. She was extremely grateful.
Christmas has always been extremely important to Buttin, me and our families. I love knowing we were able to make another family's Christmas a little better this year.
A couple months ago I went to the doctor for chronic joint discomfort (sometimes pain). My blood work came back mostly normal with the exception of my ANA titer so my doctor referred me to a rheumatologist.
I went to see the specialist a couple weeks ago and he took more blood (and some pee). I got the results back today - basically, I'm normal except for some odd results on a couple of my anti-body tests, which were not indicative of anything specific and in his words "sporadic". The doctor wants to take my blood (and probably pee) again in a couple of weeks and see me ten days later (sometime in late January). At this point, he cannot diagnosis any auto-immune disease.
I guess this just means that I'm getting old. Oddly enough, if I wake up with any joint soreness it goes away if I run.
In other health news I seem to have caught another stomach virus. Not fun - especially with all the yummy eating I should be doing in the next few days.
Here's Cub today playing in the leaves. I'm pretty convinced that our neighbor blew all their leaves into our yard. Their yard has no leaves and the leaves in our yard seemed to have procreated like bunnies overnight.
Today I spent the day as a single mom. Buttin was in Memphis, TX attending the funeral of his great-uncle.
We started our day at the grocery store. Cub was very serious. He had to steer with both wheels.
Later in the morning, in all my infinite wisdom, I decided to take the puppy and the toddler for a walk at the same time. The toddler was a bazillion times better behaved than the puppy. Here's the best picture I could take.
We dropped the puppy back at home and decided to go exploring in the green belt area around our house. We found a SEX HOLE! I have no idea what makes it a sex hole (don't think I want to know), but Cub sure does enjoy yelling in it and hearing his voice echo.
After the sex hole discovery, we walked back to the park and played.
After Cub's nap, we went to visit Aunt Jen and Uncle Mark's house. He had a great time there (and I got a little break), but busted his upper gum while playing on a couch. Aunt Jen was there with a cold washcloth. Cub even tried to share his bloody washcloth with Aunt Jen. She politely declined.
When we got home, we went for a walk (again) to his second favorite place (after the sex hole), the mailboxes. Here he is trying to tell me to run around the other side of the mailboxes - he wants me to chase him.
A couple months ago we got a call from the Make-A-Wish Foundation of Central and South Texas asking if we could help make a child's (his name is Isaac) wish come true by providing new carpet for a Thomas The Train themed bedroom makeover.
I asked Buttin (already knowing what his answer would be) and we agreed to provide the carpet, pad and installation at no cost. We are installing the carpet and pad tomorrow.
The Make-A-Wish Foundation folks sent me a picture of Isaac visiting Thomas The Train.
I shared Isaac's picture and story with Buttin and it kind of devastated him. Buttin had to close his office door because he would get emotional thinking about Isaac and his family.
I've said it at least a bazillion times this year, but I'll say it again - Buttin and I are so thankful for the health and happiness of Cub. I cannot imagine being the parent of a sick child - having to be so strong (especially in front of your child) and knowing that the only thing you can provide is love and kisses when all you want is for your child to be health is just too much.
In addition to providing the new carpet for Isaac's room this week; I'm also donating $20 to the Make-A-Wish Foundation. Also, this week we sent out customer satisfactions surveys. As a thank you for completing the survey, we've offered various treats, but if the customer selects "none" we've told them we will be donating $10 in their name to the Make-A-Wish Foundation. So far, we've had two customers select this option. I'm hoping we can make a nice donation at the end of the year to Make-A-Wish on behalf of our customers.
I missed Wordless Wednesday - Buttin and I went to the Austin Apartment Association Holiday Gala and Mormor came into town to stay with Cub.
At school yesterday Cub's shirt got wet (he was in the older kiddos' classroom - more on that in a different post) and apparently, this is the only shirt they had available for him.
Today Mormor taught Cub how to jump down the stairs. Thanks Mormor. I had to take Cub outside (in the cold rain) to get him away from the stairs.
We've been so preoccupied with moving that I haven't had much time to write about anything non-moving related.
On Saturday while Buttin was unpacking boxes, Cub and I went to check out the neighborhood Holiday Festival. I was really impressed - they had Santa on a firetruck, a small petting zoo, a little train, bouncy houses and hot chocolate and cookies.
Cub wasn't very interested in Santa. He had NO desire to sit in his lap so I had to hold him for the picture (please excuse my hobo-esque appearance).
Cub both loved and hated the baby animal petting zoo.
He liked the pig.
He wanted to take the goat home.
However, the bunnies were very stressful. His distress signal was strumming his lips with his fingers. It kind of cracked me up.
Now, here's a picture from today. He was playing at the mailboxes.
I'm interrupting Misfit Monday for a sad reason tonight.
Buttin's great-uncle Leon (who was like another grandfather - one of the wonderful benefits to living in a small town) died today. His health had been deteriorating, but the news was still difficult. Buttin will be going up to the panhandle for the funeral later this week.
Leon was goodness - he was generous with laughter, hugs and praise. He was the man you think about when you think of the perfect grandfather. One day Buttin will tell Cub stories about his great grandfather and great-great uncle and that will be a very good day.
Here's Cub today having fun, completely oblivious to pain or loss. I'd like to keep it that way forever.
I listen to everything from short stories to non-fiction to thrillers - my only criteria is that it be engaging because I don't want to be uninterested while running. I need something to take my mind off the hills.
My friend Liz LOVES Jack Reacher books. I just listened to two - Gone Tomorrow and Worth Dying For, but recently I was in the mood for something different.
I'm not finished with the book yet - but here's my brief overview.
Guy (almost 30) volunteers for three months at an orphanage in Nepal - Little Princes.
Guy discovers children are not orphans, they are trafficked children.
Guy leaves for a year.
Guy returns for a visit and during the course of his visit finds 7 children who are starving living in inadequate conditions. He makes arrangements for the 7 children to be taken by a relief organization.
Guy returns to US.
Guy gets email from relief organization saying that it took them a month to get to the children (there was lots of civil war-type stuff happening at the time) and by the time they reached the hut where the children were staying, the same trafficker had taken them again.
Guy makes a plan to return Nepal to find the 7 children. Guy is out of money so he starts Next General Nepal to help his mission.
Guy returns to Nepal.
So far (at my current place in the book), he has found 5 of the 7 children.
I'm both anxious and excited about finishing the book. So far, I've heard one reunited story between a mother and her two sons and I started crying while running (not the first time it's happened).
This week, I decided to donate $25 to Next Generation Nepal. Right now, every donation through December 31st is doubled - so that makes it even better.
Tonight I managed to cut the electricity . . . to the entire house . . . while it was dark. . . Cub was asleep . . and Buttin was away. I was trying to plug in the dryer and obviously, I didn't do it correctly.
Buttin drove up to a pitch-black house, with me stranding at the side of the house shining my iPhone flashlight into the breaker box. Buttin was able to restore electricity by resetting the ultra-mega-master breaker. Oh well, lesson learned no more electrical work for me.
Here's a picture of Cub today playing in our backyard. Well, it's not really our backyard but it's the greenbelt about five steps away from our backyard and Cub loves exploring (and collecting acorns).
First things first - HAPPY 20-MONTH BIRTHDAY CASH! It's been a great month my little sugar man. I promise to write a better letter next month.
I think when Cub turns two, I have to stop counting by months.
OK onto the promised topics.
Nuts.
Buttin and I love our tree-house-ish home. And Cub LOVES playing with all the acorns on the deck. I never gave it much thought as to how all those nuts made it onto our deck/lawn, but Buttin and I learned last night. We were settling in for some much needed rest . . . PLOP. . . . PLOP . . . acorns (or some kind of nut/seed) falling on our roof. Thankfully, the sound never actually woke us up, but we heard quite a few before falling to sleep.
Bubblegum Toothpaste.
My advice to anyone moving (because we're never moving again) is to pack an travel/overnight bag for your first night in your new house. Buttin and I were unable to locate (or had not yet moved) our regular toothpaste last night (or this morning), so we had to use Cub's bubblegum toothpaste. Yum.
It was only 37 out this afternoon in Austin, Texas but of course Cub wanted to be outside. He helped me bring in his puzzle piece mat, well a couple pieces anyways and then he got distracted by an acorn.
All of our beds and large furniture are being moved tomorrow so we will be sleeping in the new house tomorrow night. I'm not sure about the intereweb situation at the new house so tomorrow's blog post might not happen.
Today we took Cub to his first kid concert - Yo Gabba Gabba Live! He did really well and was mesmerized by all the activity on the stage and all the other kiddos. Here he is dancing (kind of).
Buttin bought Cub a little light - it was certainly Cub's favorite part of the show.
This morning I did the 16 mile version of the Rogue Run From Hell in the rain. The Run From Hell can best be described by a metric poop ton of very difficult hills. Even the downhills suck because they're so steep (and they were super slick this morning) that you really have to slow down and brace yourself.
The worst hill is up Ladera Norte. It's a .64 miles long, 300 ft climb with a 9.4% average grade and 21% max grade. In summary - it hurt and I walked most of it. We also ran up Mt. Bonnell Rd which is a long hill - 1.48 miles - with a 300 ft climb. It's a slow, steady climb which almost makes it worse. There were at least five other monster hills and about 15 dozen smaller (but still painful) hills. I did more walking today than I usually do.
Here's a picture down Ladera Norte (after I made it up).
My running group also did this run in July, but thankfully I was out of town that weekend. I have no idea how that run could be done in the middle of summer. Ick.
Crappy hills aside, I really enjoyed the run. I went through some really nice neighborhoods and because I started at 6 AM, there were still some Christmas lights visible. I also got to see a ton of deer.
I didn't take many pictures of Cub today. I spent the morning running and we spent this afternoon packing (Hannah came over to play with Cub). Here's Cub doing his best, "oh mom" face:
Yesterday was World AIDS Day. In honor of the day, I selected amfAR, The Foundation for AIDS Research as my charity of the week.
Ironically, earlier this week I was listening to a Radio Lab podcast while running called Patient Zero (the air date was 11/15 so it had nothing to do with World AIDS Day). The podcast had one segment on finding patient zero for HIV. Spoiler Alert - it's not the French flight attendant as portrayed in the mini-series And The Band Played On. No one knows the identity of patient zero - but the leading theory is called, "The Cut Hunter". The story goes something like this - In the early 1900s an African hunter killed a chimpanzee. While he was (how do I say this?) butchering the chimp, he cut himself and the chimp's blood got into the hunter's blood stream. As really, really bad luck might have it this chimp was infected with a strain of HIV (called SIV) that was able to mutate, survive and thrive in humans.
According to the podcast, twelve strains of SIV have passed from chimps, gorillas and monkeys to humans, but only this one (from a chimp) has manage to survive and thrive in humans. The podcast further went on to try and locate chimp zero and they traced it back to two forms of monkey SIV that combined in the stomach of a chimp (apparently chimpanzees eat monkeys).
I found all this research extremely fascinating which is why I decided to donate $25 to amfAR. As a foundation, they are dedicated to preventing the spread of HIV/AIDS, improving treatment for those with HIV/AIDS and ultimately eradicating the virus.
OK, so oddly enough all the HIV/AIDS chimp-eating-monkey stuff was NOT the sad part of today's Filanthropy Friday. (Warning to those with fragile hearts, please do not continue).
My well-known (at least to my blog readers) friend, Liz, has some good friends in Chicago (Sam and Suzie Tinaglia) with a son (Sam Jr.) who has been fighting leukemia most of his thirteen years. It went into remission for a while, but it has returned.
Shortly before Thanksgiving, the Chicago Bears visited Sam Jr. (and other children) at the Comer Children's Hospital in Chicago. It was featured on the local news:
I cannot say it enough (I've said it so many times on so many previous Fridays), there's nothing I wouldn't do to help a parent with a sick child. I'm so thankful that I've never had to experience the pain of a sick child (it actually makes me grateful for Cub's tantrums) - I wouldn't wish it upon my worst enemy.
Being the thoughtful person Liz is, she wrote to Suzie (Sam Jr.'s mom) and asked if there was a specific charity they would like money donated to in Sam's honor and she selected Bear Necessities. Their mission is to the eliminate pediatric cancer and to help those families (both financially and emotionally) dealing with it.
Reading about Bear Necessities absolutely breaks my heart. It was started by a woman who lost her eight year old son (Barrett "Bear") to cancer. Prior to her son's death, they had discussed starting the organization because her son (at such a young age) had more concern for other patients than himself. He and his mother realized there were gaps in the emotional treatment provided to families dealing with cancer.
I donated $25 to Bear Necessities in Sammy Tinaglia's honor. With all my heart, I hope he beats the crap out cancer.
It was capped off by the mother-of-all Graby meltdowns.
Thirty minutes of full-on fist pumping, red-face turning, all-out wailing (very dramastic) - a full blown toddler meltdown, the likes of which I have never seen. He wanted to go outside. It was 5:30 (time to stay inside).
I tried to remember everything I've read about toddler tantrums:
Ignore the tantrum, but stay close so they don't feel alone - tried it. If the goal is to make me feel like a crappy parent and hurt my ears, it worked.
Try to talk the child through their frustration - tried it. I did quite a bit of talking, Cub did absolutely no listening and lots and lots of crying.
Try distracting the child - tired it (lots). I took him to the microwave (his new favorite toy), turned on his favorite tv show, hugged him, tried to give him candy - nothing worked. I even tried jumping up and down and dancing like a crazy person. Cub continued to scream.
Eventually it got to be 6:00 PM (past bath time). I gave him a forced bath - it was not pleasant and extremely short. He screamed the entire time - I'm sure there was still some soap in his hair when I put him in bed. I started to dry him off and he ran (naked) to the front door all the while, screaming.
I scooped him up in his towel and took him into the bedroom where I rocked and sssshhhhed him for about ten minutes (he actually calmed down and stopped crying after about 30 seconds). After all that, we read books for about twenty minutes and he went to bed without a peep.
I guess the afternoon was stressful for Cub, he got his second haircut and he was really good for the first 5 minutes and then he was just done; however, the lady kept chasing him around the place with scissors. Buttin and I kept saying - it's OK, his hair is fine - but the lady insisted on adding a couple more layers.
Here he is outside this afternoon (obviously, pre-meltdown).
I especially love his current classroom, but most children move up to the next classroom by around age 19 months (Cub is almost 20 months, faint). They've had some space issues in the older classrooms, so I hadn't really given much thought to Cub's moving up (especially because like I said, I love, love, love his current teachers) because a couple of his buddies (they all started school together when they were around 3 months old) were also still in the classroom.
Anyone guess where this story is going?
I found out today that Cub's two buddies have moved up into the next classroom - which means they've actually been transitioning for the last few weeks (they don't just have them in one classroom one day and a different classroom the next day).
So, when I learned this factoid - my first thought was - Why hasn't MY CHILD moved up to the next classroom? My second thought was - Oh geez really, Stephanie?
Cash is technically older than the other boys (one by two days and the other by a couple of weeks), but I know the other boys have hit certain milestones before Cub (they walked earlier and started eating solid foods earlier) and I don't think the other boys have biting issues (ahem, Cubbie). I'm honestly not sure why Cub hasn't moved up yet and I kind of hate myself for wanting to know.
I know all children develop at different rates and that Cub is super smart (at least when it comes to pushing rockets into fire hydrants). I've never once had a concern about the timing of his development and I find benchmarking-type parents to be irksome. However, I just can't help wondering. Then, I hate myself for wondering because Cub is happy and healthy and loves his teachers and I really shouldn't (and don't want to) rush Cub's toddler-hood. I don't want to be that mom.
Side note: I'm quite sure my friend Liz will have a field day with this post. She'll probably say this is all my fault because I ate too much Splenda while pregnant and because I don't do enough physics problems with Cub. She'll also throw in some grievances for good measure.
Here's the non-physics doing, Splenda fueled toddler on the swing today.
Now a little something that made me smile. Our new house has only had one other owner and they actually built the house. We just took up the flooring (we're going to put down tile in the entire downstairs) and found a little drawing that the parents and children had done when they were building the house:
I took a picture and sent it to our agent (who in turn sent it to the sellers' agent who in turn sent it to the sellers) because I thought it was something they might like to see (I have no idea if they even remembered doing it way back in 1999). I got an email back (from our agent) saying that the sellers LOVED it and were very touched that we took the time to send them the photo. It made me feel good.
Today was the first day for our newest misfit, a sales girl,who I'm sure we'll get a nickname soon.
We've never had a sales girl before and my expectations are very high; however, she'll probably get Touchdown Duck soon (I honestly forget who had it last).
We are so fortunate and I'm reminded daily of how lucky I am to have such a healthy family and wonderful friends.
OK, enough of the sappy.
Yesterday, Liz decided to start a new Thanksgiving tradition - go around the table and say something for which we were un-thankful.
Liz's #1 unthankfully thing was that there are no more flaming hot Fritos at HEB (it's a pretty tough life). I am really unthankful that Keebler stopped making Magic Middle cookies. So, I did some extensive (google) interweb research and found that Nabisco (whose parent company is Kraft) is Keebler's #1 cookie competitor. Kraft's largest philanthropic endeavor is The Kraft Family Blood Lab at the Dana-Farber Cancer Institute so I donated $15 to them.
Nanny-nanny, boo-boo Keebler - my $15 Filanthropy Friday money could have been yours!
I'm pretty sure this is the true meaning of Thanksgiving.
I'm starting to think that any good deeds (however small) I might be doing are somehow being undone by crimes I'm committing in my sleep.
When I went out to my car this morning (we had storms last night, can you guess what's coming?), there was about an inch of standing water on the driver and passenger side floor boards. Oh goodie. The smell in my car has gotten even better.
Today was delivery day for the food drive I've been working on for the past couple of months. While driving between the first and second stop - my car stalled and wouldn't accelerate. I was delivering food to abused women when my car decided to stop working - ARE YOU FREAKING KIDDING ME??!!! Like I said, I must be committing some pretty heinous crimes in my sleep.
When my car was towed to the shop (it was around 2:00 PM) and the mechanic started it up, he said (apparently) "oh no, that was a bad noise - I'll have to look at it more tomorrow". Fun stuff.
Cash has decided that anytime I take out my phone (which I use as my camera) that he wants it. I haven't had much luck taking good pictures today, here's the best I got.
Our accountant pretty much said we owe the money, but we are still going to argue the auditor's final number. Oh joy!
In other misfit news, we have a new misfit sales person starting on Monday - and she's a girl (woman)! I'm very excited.
Today I took Cub to the new house to let him play.
Not surprisingly, he loved the stairs.
He also enjoyed the slide the previous owners kindly left for us.
It was too much to ask of Cub to sit still by the front door, so I thought (incorrectly) he'd take a picture with me under the deck to show off all the pretty trees. Isn't this a super cute picture?
This afternoon we went over to Baby Mama Heather's (Isaac's mom) house for Funksgiving. It's an annual tradition for them - they invite all their friends over the weekend before Thanksgiving for a little party. Heather mentioned that the "party" has changed somewhat over the years, but fried turkey is still on the menu.
Unfortunately, we weren't able to stay and eat (because Cash is in the bathtub by 5:45 and normal people don't eat dinner at 4:30 in the afternoon), but Cub had a ton of fun playing with friends and inspecting Heather's new sliding glass door (seriously, in and out no less than 523 times).
Heather and Todd have been remodeling their house for the last couple of years and they just finished an awesome balcony and patio. Buttin was upstairs on the balcony with some of the other menfolk and Cub had fun pointing at him (this was during the time when Cub was testing out the front door).
I woke up this morning and discovered that my Garmin did not charge (I think my Garmin is dying). I quickly found a free iPhone app, appropriately called - iRun.
I wasn't able to look down at my phone (like I normally do with my watch) periodically (it was stored away in my armband), but it was somewhat freeing not to have the watch. It was freeing, but I'm not sure I want to do without my watch forever.
Here were my results from iRun:
Trip Time: 03:08:50
Trip Distance: 15.8 mi
Average Speed: 11:57 min/mi
That sounds about right.
I was planning to run about 18 miles, but when I got to the water stop at the 8 mile marker, I looked down at my shoe.
I decided to turn back. I guess it's time for some new shoes.
Buttin and I spent this afternoon packing, throwing stuff away and taking a couple truck loads over to the house. We're exhausted.
Cub spent the afternoon being silly with Hannah. Here he is being silly with me.
It's house closing day! It's also the start of 24 hour Christmas music playing on our local radio station! Coincidence? Nope - it's just a very happy day for me!
In honor of house day - I donated $25 to Green Doors.
Green Doors is a local charity determined to prevent and help end homelessness in Central Texas. Green Doors was founded by a formerly homeless woman and they focus on veterans, disabled, seniors and families with young children. Their housing is well-maintained and they strive to use energy efficient components.
In addition to housing, they provide a food pantry and social services for residents. Their goal is to have all residents return to self-sufficiency.
I thought the best way to celebrate our new home is to help others with their home.
